“All you think about is sex, sex, sex! “
– Mom
My mom said this once to me and my cousin while we were teenagers. We had asked to be allowed to start taking birth control, but to my old-fashioned Caribbean mother this meant sex. Naturally.
At this point we both wanted it simply to control our periods and the pain that went with it, although sex was something we were curious about. Especially as we never got any sex education at home. AT ALL.
The Caribbean isn’t big on talking about sex. Not with their kids, not with each other, just not at all. It always rubbed me the wrong way, but I had no idea what to do about it, except for telling my mom I would have liked more than “sex is bad, wait until you are married”.
As I studied to become a psychologist I took a course in sexology and distinctly remember the lecturer putting a picture up of a vagina and a girl yelps in disgust. That’s the moment I realized I wanted to become a teacher to my girls out here.
I want other women to realize who they are and what they are capable of. I never again want to hear a girl sound disgusted because she saw a vagina, something that gives great pleasure (if you know what you are doing) or have to learn about sex from her high school class only.
And that’s what I’m here for!
Time to unlock your sexuality
I believe every woman deserves to feel like she is attractive and capable of being a sexual being. We hear too often that it is normal for women not to experience sexual pleasure and I am here to change that thought.
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