Well, I lied a bit. The toys you’ll be putting inside your body this week will not have to stay inside! We are focusing on toys that are primarily for manual stimulation. This means: the toys that go inside your vagina that you have to move yourself (in case you need a reminder which part was the vagina again, click the link). You WILL vibe with these toys, but they have no vibration of their own. These toys work manually, i.e. you have to do something to make it feel good, they do not do it on their own.
Dildo fun
When we talk about dildos, we mean the sex toys that are inserted in the mouth, anus, or vagina. They come in different sizes and different materials. They can be curved, to stimulate the G-spot or the prostate. Also the shape is something that can be very varied, but a lot have been sculpted to look like a penis. Especially back in the day, manufacturers were focused on making toys to look like a man’s equipment. By now they have understood that women (and men) want all sorts of toys to play with, not just phallic ones.
As said, a dildo can be inserted in every opening, depending on what catches your fancy. Remember that dildo’s are really meant for manual stimulation. It is something you will need to move yourself in order to experience pleasure from it. Try changing up the tempo, the size, the shape to play around with sensations. You can also consider glass dildos (put it in the fridge for a cold experience, NOT IN THE FREEZER) or warm it up under warm water.
Love me some balls
Ben Wa Balls as they are officially known or kegel balls (or some other names) are literal round balls that you can insert in your vagina. They can help you with your Kegel exercises. They are generally weighted and so you have to use the Kegel muscles to keep them inside of you. Some are hollow with smaller balls in them and when you move, you feel a jiggling sensation. These are not generally used for Kegel exercises, but for the good feeling you can get while wearing them. A note of caution: Ben Wa Balls need some practice if you’ve never worn them. Your vagina walls have muscles and if you wear the balls for a long time straight away, you might overexert them.
For beginners/newbies: go for Ben Wa Balls that are larger, lighter and are attached to a string. Later you can try the smaller, detached balls. Lube is (as always) your friend. Lube these up! For a level up: have a partner or you yourself warm you up sexually (oral sex while the Ben Wa Balls are inserted is LOTS of fun). And then you can do whatever, anal sex with the balls inserted, penetration (shallow strokes please), or going out for dinner without underwear. It’s all possible.
Using the… backdoor?
Y’all know we don’t use euphemisms here, so I am talking about anal toys! These are made with the express purpose of stimulating your anus. They come in various shapes and sizes and names, like butt plugs, anal beads, or dildo’s with a wide base (prostate massagers exist, but we don’t have a prostate gland). When it comes to anal toys, ALWAYS remember that the toy needs to have a flared base. What that means, is that you should be able to lose it in the anus. Trust me, you do not want to go to the ER having lost your anal toy. For all anal toys, remember: Lube. Is. Your. Friend. I know I’ve already said this a couple of times, but it’s even more important here, as the anus has no self-lubrication. Also, here you get to use silicone lube.
For my beginners/newbies: Stay away from the huge butt plugs/fists etc. Start off slow and remember, you are in charge. When it comes to for example anal beads, you don’t have to put the whole string in. You are allowed to stop! Also, when using anal beads, the maximum of pleasure you get comes from the removal. When timed with your orgasms, it’s pure bliss. Butt plugs on the other hand stay in. That’s about feeling “full”. Manual stimulation is very important here (although there are vibrating options).
And there you have it, my beautiful ladies, a list of manually stimulating toys. Have fun with these this week and by all means let me know what you liked/didn’t like!
