“Set the mood (set the mood), turn out the lights (yeah)
‘Cause I’m about to work your body babe, tonight (work it, yeah)
There’s a place (there’s a place), below your waist (go and find it, baby)
That I think I might wanna taste, eh (oh)”
As Urban Mystic recognizes in his song “I Promise”, setting the mood is what is necessary if he wants to get wild that night (and day, this man has PLANS) with his partner. It’s also what I’ve been telling you guys for three weeks now! We’ve discussed how to get ready for all the sexiness by first working on our mindset, making sure we aren’t carrying the day into the bedroom. Relaxation, writing stuff down, breathwork, all of that. But I know y’all are wondering when we get to the physical stimulation part?!
Let’s get physical!
I’m here to deliver, I promise! When it comes to the physical part, it all becomes even more individual. The physical stimulation part is VERY individual. What I like isn’t necessarily what you like. This is purely something to figure out with your partner or by yourself. Yes, even my single ladies need #ForeplayFebruary by themselves, it makes sexy time by yourself a great deal more fun.
Kiss me, baby
The usual suspect is definitely kissing when it comes to physical stimualtion. Listen, I could write whole love stories based on kissing. For the men reading this blog secretly (I see you my guys), women LOVE kissing. Reportedly 50% of men would have sex WITHOUT kissing (WUT?). Only 10% of women would do the same (glad to see I was correct in my estimate).
Also, research shows that women depend on the kiss for having a satisfying sexual experience. Men on the other hand are twice (!) as likely to have sex with a bad kisser. Men want wet kisses with more tongue whereas women… do not. So, with these facts out here you might see why this kissing thing is important in the whole getting ready for the serious hanky-panky. Whatever your style is, man or woman, make sure it fits your partner’s, otherwise neither of you two will be happy (even more so if you are two women, because apparently the guys will have sex with you, even if you suck… I guess it’s kinda comforting?).
Touchy-feely
While we kiss we got our hands unoccupied. Why not use those and put them to good use rubbing on your partner’s body? Again, please remember that we are trying to enhance the mood with physical stimulation, so you’ll have to test out what your partner likes. Maybe this is a new person to you, or you haven’t had sex in awhile.
Please stay in tune with their bodies’ reactions. We don’t all love the same things (thankfully), so we have to keep checking if it’s okay. Promise me that you won’t jump to genitals or breasts straight away (yes, ladies, I’m also talking to you if you have a female partner, every girl/woman knows her own nipple and/or breast sensitivity and what you like, she may not). Even with a male partner it’s sexy to drive each other wild a little without straight away whipping their penis out. Come on, have a little fun with it all.
As always, I’m here for all your questions and I’m ready to work with you individually on this topic or whatever else you’d like to discuss!
