It’s already the last week of May! Absolutely shocking, I know. To me it feels like this year is absolutely flying by and I’m left running after it. But no matter my stress with this year flying by, I’m also excited that we have anew month coming. I can’t wait to introduce you to our newest hashtag (the Queen is at it again). But that’s not the point of this blog (focus, Giullitta). We are talking about the problems you may have encountered this month with playing around with toys.
I felt uncomfortable
There can be many reasons why you felt uncomfortable, but I am going to discuss two main ones. Emotionally it might be hard for you to enjoy playing around with toys, because of all the messages you carry in your head. Especially if you used the toys for masturbation purposes you might have this innate shame for being allowed to masturbate, i.e. to pleasure yourself. This is a serious problem in our community where we hold ourselves back, even more so as women. Truth of the matter is: we women aren’t seen as sexual beings who are allowed to love sex, because then we are sluts. Whereas we are amazingly sensual beings and we should be able to enjoy that aspect. A good idea to work on this is to pay attention to all the messages you have received growing up. What fits with reality? And if it is reality, does it help you?
Uncomfortable continued
When it comes to feeling physically uncomfortable, there can be many reasons for why that happened. Let’s start off with your choice of toy. As said, there are so many shapes and types. But mainly also sizes! When we talk about inserting toys (anally or vaginally), remember that size matters. Not everyone wants AND is ready for a humongous anything up their vajine! Next to that we have the material used. Some materials are incredibly comfortable, like any type of CyberSkin toys or VixSkin. Both are made of very flexible silicone and they warm up AND retain body heat. If you have tried out a more rigid toy and felt it was for you, please try these. Remember that with a CyberSkin you will need a condom! Now, maybe you had your choice of toys down, your size right and then it still felt off. My honey boo, DID YOU USE LUBE? Lube isn’t about “I get wet enough” or “My partner licked me beforehand”. It is what makes the whole situation much more pleasurable. Lube can actually help with feeling new sensations, it takes away friction. The sex can also last longer. It is literally a win-win.
I couldn’t find my way with any of these toys
I personally believe that there is a toy for everyone out there that wants to try one. Read that again: a toy out there for everyone that WANTS to try one. If during this month you have figured out that toys aren’t your style, because you just don’t feel it. That is more than fine! Toys are not a must in a healthy and happy sex life, whether that’s by yourself or with someone. If you are saying this, because you feel that there isn’t a toy out there for you, I tend to disagree. Follow this Cosmopolitan article to an amazing overview of toys that you can try out. There are so many out there. We have only scratched the surface and discussed the types. But as said, each one of them comes in so many shapes and sizes, don’t be disheartened yet!
