Ladies, welcome to #ArousingApril! It’s Spring, we are in the month of April, the beginning of new things. Of course I cannot lie, it is my favorite. This simply because it’s my birthday month (happy birthday to meeee). But also as I said, Spring is the season of new beginnings. A lot of animals are waking up from their hibernation, and seeing as we humans can also use some waking up, let’s go!
What’s This #ArousingApril?
Of course it’s just your resident hashtag queen at it again, but also we are rousing ourselves from our previous sleep. It’s time to start over again and focus on the things that get us started, which in this case is arousal. This is also known as the sexual excitement stage. Some of you may be thinking: “Lady, we already talked about foreplay“. Yes, we did, but repetition is important and we are also putting our focus a little different. There are stages to the sexual response cycle and arousal is the first one.
Arouse me in #ArousingApril
Our Foreplay information was based on achieving desire, as in wanting to start having sex. Arousal has to do with the physical responses that happen when you are getting ready for having sex. This means that not feeling like sex has to do with desire (read up on solving those problems), but when you struggle with arousal, this has to do with your body struggling to maintain/prepare you for sexual activity. For example, using men: desire would be not being interested in a person versus arousal would be not being able to maintain an erection. For women, it’s about the vulva preparing herself. Your vagina gets wet because the glands produce more lubrication, your clitoris and vulva swell up as your blood vessels dilate. Your nipples (and various other erogenous zones) become more sensitive.
What does all of this mean?
I know that reading this might have might some of you think: doesn’t this mean that it is a body thing and thus I have to see a doctor? Of course not entirely as we are way more complex as humans (of course). About 6-21% of women struggle with female sexual arousal disorder. The reasons can be very varied, but one important one can be due to your mental health. This month we will be focusing on this aspect of sex during #ArousingApril. My guys, this might also be one for you guys, because the apparatus is different, but the emotions/mood/consequences etc. are similar. Feel free to follow along!
